• 3 essential Christmas promises to your congregation

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Christmas is common in most churches—so is having Christmas. Rare, however, is actually celebrating Christmas. That sort of all too infrequent commemoration requires more than handbell concerts, decorations, and warm feelings.

Here are 3 essential promises that I have always made to the several congregations I’ve been privileged to serve:

1. We will talk and sing about the coming of Christ in the context of who He is in his full majesty and glory, the Bridegroom of the church.

Stop me if you’ve heard all this before (and you have, I’m sure), but somehow even sophisticated Christians become charmed by the baby Jesus far more than they are willing to admit. I call it “Manger Moistness.” We often weep our way through the holidays remembering such things as our personal childhood promises both kept and unkept. We sometimes fail to see Christ’s explosive incarnational introduction to a personal relationship with the living God.

 2. We will allow and even encourage people to fully explore Christmas enjoyment.

Yes, you read it correctly.  

I love everything that could even be marginally thought of as Christmasy. I’m a Christmas freak! I like Santa Claus, Yule Logs, mistletoe, handbells, Salvation Army buckets, and, well...you name it. What’s more, I tend to drive right past a church billboard that suggests I shouldn't like those things. 

There is no sin in enjoying a season of giving, family gatherings, and lovely music, liberally sprinkled with prime colors, but we, the church, are not Target, and we don’t need to fulfill a role that retail does so well. (See Brian Mann's excellent video that goes with the graphic upper left)

Interestingly, the non-churched masses of the world we seek to influence at Christmas are actually quite willing to sing, hear an organ (if you’ve still got one around), cry, and even hear the story about how the mysterious Savior of the world came into existence. We often cheat these folks out of learning about Him because we are so busy trying to please them.

3. We will not pretend that all of the traditions we enjoy were packaged for our consumption the day Christ was born.

For example, Advent, as a ritual of the church, begins in the 4th century as you probably already know, but it often appears to Christians and non-Christians alike that the customs of Christian worship surrounding the birth of God’s Son were somehow written in stone like the Ten Commandments the day Christ was born.  

I’m glad we have these traditions because they center and focus our attention on the various aspects of prophecy and the fulfillment of that prophecy. That’s a good thing. Wouldn’t it be nice, though, if people saw Christmas as organic and excitingly alive in the 21st century. 

Sometimes it seems that our sentimentalizing of Christmas customs gets in the way of providing deep connection with the basic message of God’s desiring a relationship with humankind.  

You may be in a church where that central relationship is the major theme of the days leading up to Christmas, but, unfortunately, it is also possible that you might have gotten caught in the  spiral of endless Christmas calendaring wherein Christ is essentially lost. 

Make a promise to yourself that Jesus will show up in everything you say and do this Christmas.  

Blessings 

Doug 

(see, too, Mitch Todd’s excellent Do Empty Christmas Rituals Leave You Feeling "Bah humbug?")

Also, have a taste of some of my favorite Christmas moments...

http://vimeo.com/33945546

http://vimeo.com/17754320

I love this!

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  • Dan Wagner
    about 6 months ago
    Love these thoughts, Doug, but would like to prod a bit at #3. (we probably agree on this) I wonder if you're suggesting that observing Advent too strictly could be an obstacle to the principles you're presenting. I suppose that slavishly following the tradition could restrict that "organic" sense you describe, and I confess a strong bias toward the lectionary vs. much of the freewheeling I've experienced in years of worship ministry. But, I believe that following the Advent structure, and even the lectionary is the most powerful antidote for the problem you mention in #1. As I'm sure you know, the Advent journey ...partly about prophesies... is also incredibly rich in all kinds of Incarnation theology and is a feast of understanding in who Jesus is and why he came.

    You might be hinting at churches/worship folks who don't sing "Christmas Carols" until Christmas Eve. And I guess I *almost* one of them. And it makes some people cranky, and I don't mean for it to. No one loves hymns of Christmas more than I do, and man, do I love to pull out the stops when we get there. But outside of Sunday morning I've already sung Silent Night five times in various concerts and lunches, and spent a lot of time recounting angels and shepherds and wise men. And sung about the jingling bells and the snow too. I even have a massive Christmas listening playlist on Spotify going at home and office.

    So I hope I can be forgiven trying to give pastoral focus on Sundays with "Creator of the Stars of Night", "O Come O Come Emmanuel", "Lift Up Your Heads, Ye Mighty Gates" and "People, Look East". And I've let a few "carols" slip in, too. The youth choir gets a pass. The prelude and postlude and offertories too. And by Advent IV I've been arm-wrestled into Christmassy submission and it will be Christmas Hymns. But there's a part of me that wishes I had a slot left for "Lo, He Comes With Clouds Descending", "Rejoice, Rejoice Believers" ... oi, don't get me started on the great Lutheran ones the Methodists don't know...

    So - I hope I fit the "whole and organic" description, but I will admit I'm a touch out of cultural timing for the sake of point #1. (oh, and I love me some sweet Baby Jesus songs, too - in small doses.)

    Advent Peace and Joy!
  • Doug Lawrence
    about 6 months ago
    Thanks, Dan, for these exquisite observations, insights, and opinions. I completely agree with everything you said!!

    My comments above have more to do with people's over-sentimentalizing a world-shaking moment in history by trying to make rituals the same as falling on their faces before a radically loving Father who sent His Son to replace our heartbreak with hope.

    We (you, me, others in ministry) are almost forced to make people "get" all the same stuff every year, when what we would ALL like to do is shake it up a little and make it new and "wonderfying."

    The pressure we receive to make people feel good is often in direct conflict with our conscience for plunging them into a deep search for the exhaustive meaning of Christ's birth.

    Blessings as well to you, dear friend!
  • Chris Yaw
    about 5 months ago
    Hey Doug-
    Once again, great words of wisdom for us-
    Keep up the great work-
    Chris Yaw
    www.growmychurch.com
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